How to correct someone who opposes you?
That is really what a personal confrontation is - "correcting" is happening or the desire for someone to be corrected.
In such cases, there is the offender who needs to be corrected and the confronter or leader.
Hopefully the leader will allow the offender to humbly lay out the problem, giving them a chance to explain and then humbly receive why they were wrong. Good leaders know that once this takes place they need to leave the room as soon with as much etiquette as possible to avoid an argument - or what they would describe as foolish argument which would lead to a quarrel.
Why do you think we do not like personal confrontations? Sometimes we are both losers aren't we?
Imagine if the leader was quick-tempered - nothing would get resolved. Insecurity raises the decibels but nothing else gets accomplished.
If the offender is given too much leeway, they may become defensive and construct elaborate rationalizations for holding their particular position and they will, because they know the leaders usually will have an educational and vocational advantage, seek support for their position by enlisting others to their side. The result may be the formation of a faction that opposes the leader as long as they are the leader of that team.
Leaders - control your tempers, maintain a gentle behaviour and do not sacrifice your convictions.
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